When you can't get out of bed..

A couple of days in bed is fine but after that, you need to start functioning again. It will seem an impossible task to get out and do the things required of your day but it is what you need to do. Routine is what gets you through , and every day you get behind you is one more in your time bank of healing.
In perfect circumstances, you’d avoid seeing or having contact with him for about a year (It’d take about that long for you to be objective anyway). This could be a difficult thing to do depending on where you live and what your situation is. If you have Children together, perhaps you could get a third party to go-between for at least a couple of weeks (or Months). You probably don’t want to get other people involved but you have to put yourself first for a while.
The Kids don’t need to be witness to teary confrontation or angry outbursts either.
You may be surprised at the emotion that comes over you at the sight of him.
Sometimes its anger, sometimes utter grief and sometimes its white cold. Whatever it
is you’re feeling, it’s not good for the children to see. They need you to be strong and
to let them know you are there to look after them.
The better you handle yourself, the better you will FEEL about yourself!

Women will usually feel the sting of break-up straight away (or pretty soon after the initial shock has worn off). The effects of it will hit rather quickly and that undertow drags them down pretty much from the outset.
A Man, on the other hand, (usually, there can be the odd exception) will take a while for it to sink in. They have a ‘head in the sand’ automatic kick in and so, won’t ‘feel’ it straight away. Maybe that is why so often after a painful break-up for a Female, months down the track, the Man will suddenly, out of the blue, start making changes (or promising to ‘change’) crying, and trying to get the girl back, when it is way too late and the girl has already, (and finally), moved on.

That is not to say that yours is going to want you back.
Hang on to that hope and you’ll just prolong your heartache. No matter what the future holds, from this moment on, IT IS OVER!

Your brain will be tick, tick, ticking away. You will start to go over and over again the last words, the last week and everything that has been said between you for months.

Don’t.

It won’t help you and either will your imagination. Whatever you dream up, whether possibility or fantasy, it won’t prepare you anyway, it’s just the brains way of torturing the heart. It is all called ‘BEFORE’ and does not apply now.
Going over and over it in your mind will do your head in and you will read far more into it than is reality.